Happy newlyweds on the day of their wedding are surely convinced that their rest will live together. But, according to statistics, the largest number of divorces falls on the first years of life, when the spouses test their love for strength and get used to household habits and characteristics of their half. It is clear that such a process can not be called easy, so the future newlyweds should be considered all the nuances of the first days and months of their marriage before the wedding. So, how should you start family life?
Be prepared for the fact that for the sake of love you will need to sacrifice something. It can be your favorite furniture and your bad habits, which you will have to gradually abandon. The smallest issues that, it would seem, should not be a stumbling block, can lead the newlyweds to the first scandals. Therefore, do not argue about the color of the wallpaper or where to put the kitchen cabinet, otherwise it can end badly – try to find a compromise in everything and calmly listen to all the arguments of your half.
Even before the wedding, you can start trying to plan joint acquisitions, because the issue of finance is one of the most significant for those who started building their family. Agree on how your income will be distributed after the wedding, and whether each of you will have personal accumulations. It would be nice to discuss in advance the financial side of large purchases or a planned vacation, otherwise it may happen that the purchased thing will become the subject of reproaches, and the rest paid only by one spouse will not bring joy to anyone.
If after the wedding one of the spouses will move to the apartment of his halves, then it is clear that the first time will be difficult to get used to the new environment for himself. In this case, the owner of the apartment must do everything possible so that his husband or spouse get used to the new dwelling faster and feel comfortable and comfortable in him.
Each of the newlyweds will have to change the way of life that is familiar to him, so agree before the wedding or in the first days after this celebration, as, for example, you will spend weekends. Naturally, having become spouses, you are unlikely to be able to walk with girlfriends or friends, spend time in nightclubs or go fishing with girlfriends or friends. Perhaps one of the best leisure options can be this – on Saturdays, each of the newlyweds meets his friends, but Sunday in your pair will be devoted to family affairs – washing, housekeeping, joint watching films or visits for relatives.
Oddly enough, but often quarrels and conflicts at the beginning of family life occur due to pets. There is nothing wrong with this – not everyone can and should love your cat or dog, like you, and far from everyone can like your beloved hamster. Therefore, before marriage, if one of you has pets, discuss this moment and, if you cannot find a compromise, do not quarrel and find your animal a new caring host in advance. In addition, do not forget that some people are allergic to animal hair, and simply cannot be with an animal in the same room, without exposing their health risk.
The last and very important point, quite frequent in young families, scandals and conflicts is a life. Tearn before the wedding, who will still take out the garbage and wash the dishes, and who – to wash and cook, and then, most likely, the first years of marital life will not lead the family to divorce, and, on the contrary, will only strengthen your family union.